Why hater comments make me feel good!

Recently my horse Jack has been having problems with his back, we are working with a qualified physio to get him back to normal. I have been filming his progress and posting the videos on YouTube, as I do with allot of things that happen in my life.

At first I got allot of nice comments from our lovely loyal subscribers wishing us well, but then, as my videos started getting more views I started to get some negative comments, I tried to explain to the authors of these comments what was Jack's problems were and why I am doing the things that I am with him. Then, over the next few day I had some really mean comments saying that I didn't know what I was doing with Jack, I was making him worse, I was a bad owner etc etc. These type of comments clearly came from people who didn't know me, hadn't seen my earlier videos, people who hadn't been following our story and didn't know what was wrong with him or what I was doing to help get him better. When I deleted these comments I got PM's form the people who wrote them giving me abuse.

It is easy to say 'just ignore them' but that is allot easier said than done, when you love something as much as I love my horse it's hard to listen to people telling you you are harming him. Why anyone would want to make someone else feel so bad is beyond me. I often see videos on YouTube of people doing things with their horses that I don't believe in but I can honestly say that I have never posted a mean or abusive comment on anyone else's video or channel, nore have I ever sent an abusive PM. If it is their horse, they can do what they want with it, I don't believe anyone would intentionally do the wrong thing for their horse, we all have different opinions and different ideas as we learn form different people, especially when we live on opposite sides of the world, the ways that we do things and our opinions of what are right and wrong will sometimes be different.

One thing that I believe is that everybody, regardless of nationality, age or race knows that bullying of any kind is wrong. There are allot of different types of bullying, be it pushing a kid over in the play ground at school, beating someone up in a nightclub, emotional bullying or cyber bullying. I for one think that cyber bullying is the most cowardly form, you can sit at you computer typing mean emails to people who do not know who you are, where you are from, how old your are or absolutely anything about you, these people are basically hiding behind a username or email address, they do not have the guts to stand up to another human being and tell them what they think, they have to do it from inside their computer.

This was my first experience of cyber bullying, these people did not just write one or two comments, they sent me numerous PM's which were nasty, aggressive and basically very disturbing. I did not reply, deleted the comments and blocked them. One of them even set up a new YouTube account so they couldn't send me more abusive messages because I had blocked them on their usual account. Another found me on Facebook and Twitter and sent me horrible messages on there. Some may say that I should not have my FB and Twitter accounts visible on my channel for everyone to see but I like my YouTube friends to be able to talk to me on my other networking sites, not just YouTube, why should I keep those other profiles secret for the sake of these bullies?

While it is hard to ignore these comments I have come to realise that the more popular my YouTube account becomes, the more haters I am going to get. Its the law of averages; not all people are nice, most are but say for every 100 nice people you meet you are bound to meet one or two bad ones, so the more people you meet, or the more people watch your videos, the more haters you will inevitably get. It's just the way the world works, it's sad but true.

If you are getting hater comment just remember that these people are either very bored or very jealous of you! We all get bored and we all get jealous sometimes but most of us are big enough to deal with or let those feeling go, others are not, they feel the need to tell us how they feel, to make us feel bad so that they feel bigger and better about themselves. Next time you get a hater comment just remember that the person who has written it is not only bored, jealous or sad enough to think it but they are jealous enough to actually log in, write it down and send it.

My tips for dealing with haters

• Don't respond to their comments, you are to good a person to bring yourself down to their level

• Delete the comments, your videos are to good to be related with such people

• Block them so they can not continue to write on your video, send you messages etc

• Report them to YouTube, YouTube has strict rules on bullying and they have a duty to uphold these rules

• Go on with your day remembering that if these people are so jealous of you that they have taken time out of their day to try and make you feel bad, you must be pretty dam good eh?!

Keep posting your videos with pride, remember that most people who watch your videos watch them because they like them, like you and enjoy watching them. Do not let haters spoil the pleasure of YouTube for you. Think of all the good people you have met through YouTube and remember the feeling you get when someone leaves you a nice comment or subscribes to your channel.

Kat x

Good Grooms should be paid as such!

So many employees take advantage of grooms when it comes to pay, there seems to be a very old fashioned attitude when it comes to grooms which is wrong.

I was offered a job last year with a well known show jumper, they wanted me to work 6 days, 6am- 5pm with 30 mins for lunch, on show days I would have to work what ever hours were required (ie more than the 6-5 of a normal day), I got a room in a shared flat with 4 other grooms, bills paid. The pay they were offering was £150 per week.

Dont get me wrong, I am not affraid of hard work, as a freelance groom I now work between 60 and 90 hours a week, and I work hard. Who can live on £150 a week these days? Even without paying rent and bills, there is no way a grown up (unless you have no car to run, never go out, have no debts and can live on pot noodles!). When I told them I could not work for that wage they were shocked, as if I should be greatful that they were offering me work. I was greatful of the job offer but I am a proffessional groom who is good at her job and £150pw is a good as a kick in the face.

There was once a time when grooms could be expected to work for pennies but times have changed, it is 2010 and people need to realise that the world has moved on, laws have changed and it's just the way it is now!

As a freelance groom with a good rep and references I can charge between £8 and £12 an hour for general grooming, £20 -£30 for riding, and I have control of my diary so as long as I dont mind running myself raggid I can fit allot of work into a day and make a good wage. Having said that it's not all about the money, I have one client who I only charge £5ph, she is a nice lady with nice ponies and I love working for her, she isnt rich but she looks after me where she can and I appreciate that so I dont mind working for less.

People are more than willing to rip of good grooms, if you dont get them to sign a contact when you start to work for them you are risking never been paid. Even which a contract you still have to be willing to fight for you money at the end of the day.

I totally love my job and wouldnt change it for the world but I am lucky that I now have some very good clients on my books, I've worked for allot of bad ones in the past, but Ive paid my dues and learn't my lessons and now I'm older and wiser for the experience and I could write you a very long list of good points!